Lessons From a Father: Lesson 5

5 Lessons from a Father

By Hope A. Bevilhymer

Whose Laughing At You?

LESSON NUMBER 5:

Over the past several months I have been writing 5 Lessons I learned from my Father. It has been 2 years since his passing and I have compiled a list of things that he has taught me over the years.  With this being the last lesson of this series I thought I would recap on the past 4 Lessons he taught me.

LESSON 1: REMEMBER THE 5:  This lesson was about the people who are in your life. 
LESSON 2: THERE IS A STORM BREWING:  This lesson discussed how there are storms that arise within our lives.  It just depends on how we weather the storms.
LESSON 3: DON'T BE SO DUMB:  This lesson talked about how we should use our brains to accomplish things.  Work smarter, not harder.
LESSON 4: FAITH IN HUMANITY:  This lesson discussed how we should keep to our word.  If we say we are going to do something we follow through.
 ( You can read all these in my blog)

Which brings us to the last of these lessons. Whose Laughing at You?  The answer to that question should be yourself. Because if you can not laugh at yourself, then who can.  Through all the trials and tribulations that us as a family has endured, I have learned the most valuable lesson from my Father.  If you can not see the humor in things your doomed.   

My Father had two laughs.  One was something was funny and made him laugh and the other was he was up to no good.  As kids he would start water fights with us in the house.(My Mother did not approve) He would start WWF (WWE for those who are younger) Wrestling with all of us kids.  We purchased him a paint ball gun for Christmas one year and he decided to tag everything in the yard including my mothers lawn statues. It was a winter pink mess.  He would leave a cup of water on the top of the door sill leaving the door open slightly and when you opened it the water would fall on your head. He was constantly joking around and keeping things humorous in the house.  I think he learned it from his mother my Grandma Bevilhymer.  She was quite the prankster as well.  She would start food fights for no reason and go on the slip n slide with us.  I remember one time we were leaving my grandparents house.  I was fairly young and we said goodbye to our Grandpa.  We couldn't find my Grandma to say goodbye too.  So we decided to leave.  When we left we walked out on the front porch and proceeded to get hit with 5 gallons of water.  My Grandma was standing on the roof with a 5 gallon bucket of water waiting for us to leave.  She dumped it on most of us and said "Bye Love You."

I learned humor early on as a kid and I am quite the funny person if you are around me long enough. I think with this lesson I was able to cope a little better with all the things that have been thrown my way. I remember when I first had my leg amputated.  It was difficult for some people to handle.  They would act like I had a terminal illness and this was it.  From day one of the amputation I have done nothing but find the humor in it.  I made a choice to have it done so now I am stuck with whatever challenges it has in store for me. I mess with people all the time when it comes to my leg.  It was a couple weeks after my amputation and several of my friends were going to go Lagoon.  I was bored out of my skull and I wanted to go.  I still had stitches and the cast on.  I ended up going. We went on every ride and even did the 150ft sky drop.  We were getting ready to go and it was late.  They wanted to go on the Haunted Castle ride.  So after the ride was over one of my friends was going to get my wheelchair. ( I did not have my prosthetic at the time) I got off the ride and instead of waiting for my friend to get the wheelchair. I had a brilliant idea to hop to the wheelchair.  As I did this I caught my sandal on crack in the ground and tripped.  When I tripped I landed on my stump full force.  Every imaginable pain sensation was going through my body.  Lagoon did not know what to do with me so they got one of their stretcher things and took me to their medic area.  My stump just hurt and I had cut open the other leg by falling.  The medic from Lagoon came to me with a serious look on his face, he was carrying a clip board.  He started to write down some stuff and then he looked at me said what exactly happened.  I said in the most serious voice possible... I was riding the Samurai and my leg fell off.  Can you help me find it?  He had wrote down the whole thing.  We ended up telling him what happened, but it was a crappy situation that we were able to look back and laugh.

So as I wrap up this lesson thing.  Don't take life so serious...We only have one of these lives so have fun with it.  If you truly look back on some of the most happiest times of your life... What were you doing?  Probably laughing at one point or another.






** Stay tuned next weeks blog is called: Too FACE PLANT or FACE PALM that is the question...
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Lessons From A Father: Lesson 3

5 Lessons from a Father

By Hope A. Bevilhymer

LESSON NUMBER 3: Don't be so DUMB!

  Sorry bloggers it has been sometime since I have posted here.

 If you have meet any of us Bevilhymers you will automatically see we are bigger in stature.  People joke all the time that I have a big German head.  Which is true most of the baseball hats will not fit me.  With us being bigger in stature we are able to use our physical strength to our advantage.  My Father was also a larger man.  The thing about my Father though is he was solid and strong.  You need something moved have one of us or a couple of us come move it for you it will be no problem.
  
Recently I was working on my spouses car with my brother.  There was a bolt that just would not budge. I tried different wrenches, sockets and angles to see how I could get this bolt off.  I thought that if I used sheer force and muscle this bolt would loosen.  No instead I nicely started to strip the bolt and cut my fingers open trying to pry it with all my might.  My brother stopped me and he said did you not learn anything from our Father.  I responded in saying, "What do you mean?"  My brother then reminded me of the saying "Don't work harder, work smarter."  My brother then grabbed a breaker bar and the bolt just came off with ease.  My brother then reminded me that I did not need to use strength but use my smarts.

   My Father was constantly reminding me to work smarter.  I would try to lift heavy things and he would stop me and say step out of the box and see if this is the only way you can move this item.  I would then think of different alternates to pick up the item.  Most the time I would find something that would carry the weight of the item so I would not need to do all the heavy lifting.  Over time of him reminding me to use as he called it "The thing between my ears" and figure out the smartest way to tackle anything. I did not just use this lesson in just manual or physical ways.  I was also able to apply it in other aspects of my life. With relationships, employment and other daily activities.  I often forget too use this lesson in life sometimes.  This can get me into trouble because I will just dive in and go for it before actually taking the time to use my brain and take care of it the easy way.  If we take the time to just work smarter not harder then things might just go a little smoother. Why make a task more difficult then it needs to be. Use your brain!